Even if we have to let go.

When you care about someone you want them to stay... isn’t it? 

You hold onto things. 

You hold onto memories. 

You hold onto moments. 

You hold on for dear life, for fear that letting go will not only sever ties but sever the cords within you that keep you together. 

And it is in these painful moments that we realize sometimes we hold on too tight. Too long. 

Relationships are complex. 

As we grow up, we may sometimes grow apart. People deal with this in different ways. 

Some process it, while others continue with life as though nothing ever happened.

Some feel stuck and others allow the bitterness of a love gone by to change them.

This change is often not for the better.

I often wonder if people actually mean what they say when the love is pure. I say this because when the juice is sour, they tend to forget those words.

They forget the sweetness of a love gone by. Instead, they hold onto the bitterness.

Their palates only remember how sour the juice was. It cannot recall the sweet.

I speak not only of relationships.

I speak of friendships too.

These are all capable of coming to an end. And when they do, why do we sometimes set out to tarnish the person who we think wronged us? Why do we throw insults and post secret messages in the hope that they would find out? Why do we often hurt people we claimed to have loved and respected once?

Does this behaviour not ultimately change us?

Is this not what actually severs the ties within that make us who we are?

Sometimes we hold onto people and things a little too much.

We cling on for dear life, even when the rope we are holding onto cuts through our skin.

We are afraid to let go.

But sometimes your care comes in doing exactly that. Letting go.

Setting yourself free. And the other person too. 

There is a certain kind of freedom that comes with that. 

We do not own people. We cannot control how long they choose to stay in our lives or why they choose to leave.

We can simply let go. And hope they will be better people without us in their lives.

We hope we will be better people too; that the bitterness does not taint us.

Sometimes we need to let go and make room for new things to bloom. After the storm, the rainbow surely does appear. We cannot shrink and hide from the storm forever; we will never see the rainbow if we do.

Sometimes our care comes in letting go.

And that is okay too.

We will be okay. 

Even if we have to let go.

Take Care

Miss Stone