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When Cata said 'Tap into my Chi', I didn't realize how much it would affect me. These four words from a song, this one line; it changed my life. What is Chi? In its literal translation, it is 'breath' or 'air'. Simply put. Chi is life. It is that which gives life. However, Chi is more than the physical body. Chi influences both our emotions and cognitions too. Unbalanced Chi causes distress. Balanced Chi causes your emotions to become smooth. When mental Chi is refined, it causes creativity, not only in art or business, but in child rearing and relationships. It is that natural energy that each living being has. Our goal, as humans, is to manage our Chi flow in our homes and around us in such a way that there is a good flow of Chi in our bodies. Thus, we want to avoid the Chi flow that is aggressive, attacking, low or depressive (Energy Arts, 2014; Tchi, 2014). So, why am I telling you all of this you might not have an interest in? It's simple. Wheth...

I sit here, alone, with my thoughts. I am filled with gratitude. My heart is overflowing. I have joy in leaps and bounds. I look to the heavens, and I cannot help but laugh and cry simultaneously. The Lord has been good to me. He invited me to a special event this year and I am still in awe. I look back on the year. The challenges were so great. At times, I was unsure of how I'd make it through another day, or night for that matter. My body was exhausted and everything within me wanted to give up. I still don't know how I did it, but I do know there was something in me that was not ready to give up yet. And because of that, I had no choice but to hang on.  And then, the invitation came... A few of my favourite quotes come from a poem (which later turned into a book) entitled 'The Invitation' by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. In this poem, three lines spoke to me, especially this year. She says 'I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, witho...

Whitney Houston says in one of her songs, 'I was not built to break...I didn't know my own strength...'. If this year has taught me anything, it has taught me that I was not built to break. One morning you wake up, and everything you've known, everything you've become accustomed to, can crumble down. I woke up one morning and everything was alright with my world. When I got home the evening, everything was turned upside down and inside out. I cried. And cried. And cried some more. I cried until I had nothing left to purge. And when I was done, I said 'Lord you know my heart' and left it in His hands. There really wasn't much I could. I had no more fight left in me. So I gave it over to the Lord.  It helps. When you've done everything you can possibly do and you get to the point where there is nothing more you can do, you hand it over. You pray to your Higher Being and you hand it over.  I've grown in strength this year. Not physicall...

Today, I want to talk about woman on woman hate. Today, I want to talk about those women who hate on you just for being you. And I mean, if you’re a woman who knows what she wants, then having a few people ‘hate on you’ is normal I guess. However, in this day and age, there are woman who sit on their arses all day long and still hate on you for going out there and achieving your goals. You still find bitter women who have nothing to their name, but feel they have a right to tell you shit about what you have. You still find women who think finding a rich man and getting him to look after you is the be all and end all, and frown upon you for working hard every day to make your own money. I live by my personal mantra, ‘Temporary sacrifice. Life-long gain.’ My year has especially been one of sacrifices lately. Sacrificed my permanent employment and monthly salary to go back to school and do my Masters degree. I sacrificed living in my home and my personal space, and chose to r...

This year started off with the death of a family member. Since that incident, I lost three more family members to death. Death be not proud. My family has suffered so much this year, yet we soldier on. I have not written in such a long time. This Psychology Masters programme has really taken up most of my time; it has certainly taken up all of my energy. On Wednesday, after a grueling few weeks of portfolios and exams, I received my first semester results and I passed!! But today’s post is not about death or even my studies; today I want to speak about Pain. Hurt. But it is also about moving on from the pain. Yes, we have all been hurt before. We have all been betrayed before. We have all felt a pain so unbearable; we thought we could never face another day.   We have all hurt someone before too. We have all betrayed someone in one way or another and we have all been responsible for someone else’s deep, unbearable pain. We live and we learn though. In the past few w...

I cry sometimes. I just let it all out. That is not a sign of weakness. I just need to give my fragile heart some relief. So, I cry sometimes... I laugh sometimes. Well, a lot actually. Because laughter heals. It makes you feel like everything is okay with the world, even if only for that moment in time. But that is what makes it so amazing, that for a moment in time, everything is okay in the world. So, I laugh sometimes... I shy away from the world sometimes. I do not always want to be surrounded by people or have stimulating conversations with others. I do not always feel like smiling with others, or even just seeing people. Being alone with my thoughts, comfortable with my own company, helps me become centred again. It helps me remember what is important, away from the hustle and bustle of the world. So, I shy away from the world sometimes... I allow myself to feel. To experience. To learn. To fail. To stumble. To get back up. To achieve. To win! I allow myself to smile...

I received a phone call from two friends today. Two people so close to my heart J Izo and Zee.     I have been having such a crappy, stressful week, and this phone call just made me feel so much better. They made me forget about everything I am facing and brought me back to what is important. They brought me back to “Self”. Last year, Izo, Zee and I would sit on their balcony, and we would tell each other stories. Stories of love and broken trust, stories of pain and fighting through the tears. Stories of falling and getting back up again. Stories of losing ourselves… Throughout the year, each one of us with our different stories, had one common theme. That of loss. We had each lost a piece of ourselves, in one way or another. Whether it be to someone else or a personal loss, we had lost a piece and were desperately seeking for it to return, even if only partially. And so our journeys began, both individually and together. Day after day, week after week, month after m...

2nd January 2014. 2 days into the new year. I am thankful and I am grateful that I am still here. But this morning I woke up to the news of another death in my family. Death. One moment you're happy and celebrating with family, and the next, one is taken away from us. It just shows us that nothing is truly guaranteed in this thing called life. It shows us that our time on this earth is so limited, no one knows if they will live to see another day. Today, I just want to say this: Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today. Do not put off telling someone how you feel. Do not put off showing someone you care. Do not put off doing something that brings you joy. Do you. Be your authentic self and pay no mind to that that brings you down. This life thing is short. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so there is no time for negativity. I wish you all a prosperous new year. A year filled with love. A year filled with lessons. A year filled with dreams becoming reality. A year filled ...