Let's not play the game...

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I was having a hard time trying to decide what today's post would be about. Then this thought popped into my head and now here I am, sharing it with you all.

I've come to the conclusion that we as women do not always rise to the occasion. We, at times, dumb ourselves down, so that our male counterparts do not feel less masculine. We have degrees upon degrees, potential and passion. Yet, we still lurk in the shadows. We still allow others to shine. Why? Why do we do this?

Growing up, we were taught that women had to know their place. This place usually meant pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen. This place usually meant raising the kids and making sure there was food on the table. This place usually meant taking care of everything and everyone in the home. It was as if the rules of the game had already been set out for us, all we had to do was follow them. But, for how long will we play this game before we get tired? For how long will we be happy with the rules set out for us? For how long will we keep up appearances until we realize we need more? We deserve more. We can do more. A lot more.

Now, I am not saying a woman should not take care of her family, because she should. But a woman needs to look after herself too. She needs to make herself happy too. If that means climbing that corporate ladder and stepping on a few masculine toes along the way, then so be it. A bruised ego is something that can and will heal. Regret is not something that easily goes away.

Today, I have been inspired by the powerful Women in my life. Women who have pushed the boundaries. Women who did not conform. Women who made their own rules.
As women, let's not play the game. The dumb game. Let's not play.

Be bigger. Better. Let's make our own rules. Let's play our game. All the way to the top.

Do not be afraid to be powerful. We can be powerful and still take care of home.
Go on...

Take care.

Miss Stone


Comments

  1. AnonymousFebruary 24, 2013 at 3:51 PM

    Let's not play the game!!!!

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  2. AnonymousFebruary 24, 2013 at 8:36 PM

    Im inspired

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  3. AnonymousFebruary 24, 2013 at 9:49 PM

    I'm really enjoying your posts. Thank you.

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  4. AnonymousFebruary 25, 2013 at 8:03 AM

    Spoken from the heart...Love it - Liesie *kiss*

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  5. La-ToyaFebruary 25, 2013 at 11:08 AM

    Thank you for reading :)
    @Liesie,kisses to you! Mwah!

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  6. Chris2farFebruary 25, 2013 at 11:17 AM

    White Flag, I am commenting based on constructive pursuits, no harm intended. Ever wondered why there aren't many songs about Fathers, most songs written are about mothers. That is because nurturing and caring is a woman's God given nature. Unfortunately media has painted a bad picture about the role of a woman, society has degraded that vital role of a woman. Climbing the corporate ladder does not guarantee happiness,its just an American dream. It robs you of the essential role of being a woman. Our morals are slowly decaying because the children no longer have their mothers to love them and nurture them. Economies will collapse, but love will remain. if the children aren't loved how will they express or show love. expensive clothing and gadgets is nothing if proper emotional attachment and guidance is not incorporated.

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  7. Chris2farFebruary 25, 2013 at 11:23 AM

    Caring for a family is a full time job, so is climbing the corporate, which in turn produces unnecessary stress. You cant play both roles, Let your man be a man and provide all your needs and wants, after all you are a princess,

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  8. Chris2farFebruary 25, 2013 at 11:30 AM

    White Flag, I am commenting based on constructive pursuits, no harm intended. Ever wondered why there aren't many songs about Fathers, most songs written are about mothers. That is because nurturing and caring is a woman's God given nature. Unfortunately media has painted a bad picture about the role of a woman, society has degraded that vital role of a woman. Climbing the corporate ladder does not guarantee happiness,its just an American dream. It robs you of the essential role of being a woman. Our morals are slowly decaying because the children no longer have their mothers to love them and nurture them. Economies will collapse, but love will remain. if the children aren't loved how will they express or show love. expensive clothing and gadgets is nothing if proper emotional attachment and guidance is not incorporated.

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  9. La-ToyaFebruary 25, 2013 at 11:33 AM

    Thank you for your comment Chris2far,I appreciate it. I agree, nurturing and caring is God given, it does come natural, but just because it comes natural, is that the only thing we are expected to do? For some women this is enough, this all that brings them joy. But for others, it is not. There is nothing wrong with either. It all comes down to what makes them happy, to each its own. I wrote that post because some women are afraid to do more, not for fear of not being good enough, but for fear of what others will say, more so their male counterparts. Climbing the corporate ladder is something that brings some women joy. I know women who are highly successful, but they are also Moms, Moms whose children can rely on them. It is possible to do both. A balance is possible.

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